Probably once in a while or sometimes even more i see people who are heart broken. Everyone has their own story, own reason for break up. But i think from last whole week while reading people's blog, reading friend's status and talking to my friends. I'm hearing & reading again lot about heart ache. I am no stranger to this jolly pain. This is what i call it these days. Because for me, it has become "A chronic pain syndrome" for which there is no cure....even i keep my heart cut open on the plate, it will still...have an anger. My love has morphed into an anger, THe RAGE. I am not ashamed of accepting it, and why should i be? Everyone has there own way of moving on...i chose to be angry at him, because then i can take my anger out, by running on treadmill for an hours ...
It has been working quite a well. I mean i don't like to be angry so I avoid thinking about him....
For people out there who are still in pain ...don't let that one person to change your life. People mourn for diff amount of time... i mourned for too long that i changed into a diff person...but don't let that happened to you. Don't let creepy love to change your vision of life, because its not worth it, Believe me, its not worth it.
"Be a Man!" thats what my friend/senior Dr.Karthik usually tells me. He is resident in Emergency department. He is the person who has all the answers. Atleast to questions i have. Two days ago i was just randomly talking to him...i asked him non-medicine question, i was little hesitant at first, but then i just asked..."how long it takes for a man to get completely over the relationship?" He gave me a witty smile. (Because usually my question are about the patients he saw or any new trauma he was involved with)....he thought for a minute and then
He said as per i know "men don't mourn for too long, there could be exceptions, but seriously, men mourn for a week at most or may be two if relationship was quite a while. I asked him "why woman mourn for too long, why do we care so much?" he said "thats the bad thing woman do to themselves....woman just like man have a whole life in front of them, and no man is perfect". He said "once the relationship is over don't ever think that particular person was perfect for you and you missed your chance to live your life with that person". I asked him "do man get hurt when relationship is broken"? He said "man are even weaker then woman thats why woman are the one who give birth to a child not man...it is most nerve racking experience and woman has strength to go through it, not just once but couple times. Its just that woman tend to get more emotionally involved by opening up their feelings more then man do". I totally agree with him on that. We tend to make other person more comfortable in relationship by being an idiotic talkative person and in this dumb process ....we put ourself out there for another person to ambush us.
But we all learn from mistakes, because we're foolish enough to make them in first place..... Rule of life is ~ nobody should have a power to bring a drop of tear in your eyes. Be strong and be Brave, life doesn't stop...so stop crying and keep sucking it up as it comes ....because once you fall, there will be none to help you to stand up back again. The one person, whom once you thought loved you... will do things to put you 6 feet under the ground with dirt. So be a Man!! Be a Man! I told myself and also i am telling you girls/guys...don't be a girlie girl...don't be a cry baby. Nobody will come to wipe your tears....you have to pick up kleenex urself and make an effort to stop those tears, which make you weaker. Most importantly, your tears are worth more then that person who has left you alone with that pain.
Life will get better and better...it will...so just let it embrace you...
Parvy
heart touching lines.....
ReplyDeleteLife is not fair,one man you love, you think, he is divine, you fall far his sweet words. After all that man is mortal, and relationships are fragile. You are betrayed.
ReplyDeleteYou are right Parvi, that, we need to stand up. Be A MAN.
How can one man got you so badly that you became such a stereotypical woman? I am not gonna comment on the strategy you are using to get over him. But i am glad that you are atleast trying to be strong and moving on in life.
ReplyDeleteIts true, that often we change to a different person...but perhaps thats not cos we mourn for too long, but cos the betrayal of a deep love causes a wound inside, which keeps reminding us of what happened with each prick of memories,relating to many thing happening around.. even if we choose not to think about it consciously.... Human memory is too strong, it takes a long time not to co relate anymore. I do not know exactly why people change, but from my personal experience I think, we change to make a hard shell around us, to protect ourselves from the effect of that pain now & further.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you, once we are hurt we become sensitize to the pain and we never want to experience that pain over again. You begin to fear relationships and become too conscious.
ReplyDeleteTo Kiran-I am stereotypical woman? What ever i said was deeply felt and understood over the period of time.
You don;t know how it is to wake up every morning and think about why things happened they way they did....you don't think it consciously..its your brain which forces you into it. You just try and fight to understand what you did wrong, how you can be a victim of such a trauma...Its a vicious circle....and eventually you begin to realize love is no more then a VENOM.
As Cactus said "your mind takes a long time to erase the memories"....I wish my brain could be demented and that whole time or period of my life could be erased and i could start a new beginning. ....